Ironically, one of things what beautiful in painful memory is that catharsis by sharing. More intensive pain it is, more vivid memory we have, stronger catharsis we feel. More painful experience one has he/she can experience catharsis with more people. By listening their music of the emotion, reading their book of thier story energy brings the past life moment brings everything to now. I am there and I see, hear exactly same scene, feel exactly same feeling that I felt at that moment. It hurt as hell, energy ignites burn me again and at the climax catharsis happen with tear as pouring cold water to burning skin but it rather create much more pleasurable sensation.